Whether you are a leader, a consultant, a mentor or anyone people come to for advice, you are walking a line.
A few weeks ago I had the honor of speaking with a 29-year-old man completing his PhD and launching into a new job in the corporate world. He has been in school and doing internships and such for the last 11 years. He asked my advice as he entered the corporate world.
My ego raised its head and at the same time tiny cold feeling went up my spine. I know he wasn't looking for an answer to "the meaning of life," but who am I to tell him anything, and potentially rob him of the outcomes, negative or positive, of his own choices?
What are your options?
I ended up asking him a lot of questions. Like, about what he expected. How he might handle different situations. What his hopes where. After about 10 minutes I asked him if he noticed that I didn't give him any advice. "Yes." And why? Thankfully he didn't say, "Because I'm on my own."
It's about them trusting themselves.
My advice-asker got it immediately. I was so pleased that he claimed what he wanted
and needed and recognized it was up to him to make choices and live with them, and also recognize that he had the smarts to do so, and is entitled to want what he wants.
Coach to encourage self-discovery.
I don't think I could have come up with anything that would have been better advice.
Not that we should deny others the benefit of our learnings, perspectives, and observations based on our own successes, mistakes, and experiences. Yes, they are looking to us as leaders, and we can deliver that in different ways.
When people look to you for advice, how do you lead, and help them develop their own personal leadership at the same time?
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